finding ME time in motherhood.

if you’re a mom, you know EXACTLY what i’m referring to. there is no denying that motherhood is the best job in the world, but it can be TOUGH. there is absolutely nothing like it; you will never feel so much love, guilt, stress, or anxiety from any job aside from that of a being a mother.

with all the hustle and bustle, and losing your mind a few times here and there, let’s talk about what this post is all about…you time! it’s absolutely a must, and as guilty as you may feel taking that time for yourself, it’s so important to do so. moms…you’ve got to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of anybody else.

so here, i thought i’d share a few ways that i enjoy sneaking off for some me time:

relax in a bubble bath

this is my go to. even if i have to wait until my girls are in bed, i look forward to it so much. a bath bomb, a good-smelling candle, and some music. give me twenty minutes and i get out feeling so calm and refueled.

journal

i really enjoy writing. it lets me get all my thoughts out of my head and on to paper. simply just a way for me to decompress and de-stress.

drive time

i have a pretty decent commute to and from work every day so i’ve learned to quite enjoy that time alone, especially when i can have the windows down and blast some of my favorite music.

errands

yes. i said it…errands. “going out” for me now is running errands. alone.

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the summer of 2019: my bucket list.

fall is and will always be my favorite season, but after some long cold months, summer comes in as a close second. i love what summer brings…sunshine, cookouts, adventure.

this summer is going to be different. it’s going to be better because i’m spending it with people who make me feel alive, and that’s the way life should be. it may include a whole lot of netflixing and just being at home, but that’s what i look forward to the most. a care-free summer with my favorite people.

so cheers, cheers to the best summer yet!

a few of these things are planned, and some are just some realistic, manageable ideas that i’ve put down on my summer bucket list that i’d like to do:

  • be creative – i haven’t spent a lot of time this year doing what i love most: creating. i hope to get some time in this summer to paint.
  • visit a zoo – always one of my girl’s favorites.
  • go camping – tenting, campfires, and stargazing. that’s been on my list for years! i want to make it happen this summer.
  • have a picnic – pack a lunch and go enjoy the sun. i’ve never experienced this. i want to.
  • messy twister – paint and some summer cocktails. why not?
  • the obvious: go to a cubs game – and lots of them.
  • go to a drive-in movie – something that has always been on my bucket list and still have yet to cross off.
  • hit up the madison farmer’s market one saturday morning – always a favorite of mine!

what about you? what do you have planned this summer?

celebrating us on mother’s day.

raising kids is hard. the thought of raising a child to have confidence, curiosity, knowledge, manners, purpose and empathy sounds both terrifying and exhausting, but i’d like to think i’m doing an okay job at it. like so many moms, i can’t count how many times i have doubted my ability to be successful and to have all the answers.

but kaylei and mahkena, seeing your smiles, your joy, and your big hearts is all the proof i need to know that i’m doing something right.

i’ve realized that mother’s day is not about me at all; it is a day to celebrate us, together.

i owe you girls a thank you for making me a better person, for giving me greater purpose and for showing me what life is all about. i cannot wait to experience all the wonderful things you’ll do in the world, but please… take your time my loves, let’s not rush this beautiful journey.

there’s nothing stronger than a mother’s love, baby girls. i’ll love you forever, to the moon and back.

love, your perfectly imperfect mother

*a huge thank you to my dear friend chelsea from chelsea marie photography for capturing these photos that i’ll forever cherish

10 things i’ve learned as a mother.

you can’t really prepare yourself for becoming a parent and you should always expect the unexpected. motherhood is certainly not easy, but it truly is one of the most rewarding experiences you will ever have.

my baby girl turned 10 this week and i’m using it as a time to reflect and share 10 things with you that i’ve learned over the past decade.

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you can never take enough photos. Of the same thing.

take those photos. capture those memories. you’ll cherish those photos forever.

you will lose friends, but treasure the one’s that stick around. 

there will be friends that you thought would be in your life forever that will disappear when you have kids. and that’s okay, because if they’re not supportive, they were never really your friend.

but with losing friends as you become a mother, you will also make some. and those, the ones that you can laugh and tell anything to, the ones you can compare mom stories with, those, those are the one’s worth treasuring.

things can get overwhelming. don’t be afraid to ask for help.

there will be so many times where you will defeated and run down. don’t be too ashamed to ask for help. you can’t take care of your babies if you don’t care of yourself first. you have little ones that are counting on you.

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there are two types of 3 A.M.s

the stumbling out of a bar when it closes at 3 A.M. and the “mommy, i need a drink” 3 A.M.s. but, those types of middle of the night wake ups won’t last long and are exactly what naps are for.

time passes really really fast.

time moves so much faster after you have children. they’re born, you blink, and the next thing you know you’re registering them for middle school. cherish every moment before your babies don’t need you anymore.

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coffee will become your best friend.

even if you’ve had to microwave it a dozen times because you keep forgetting to drink it before it gets cold. drink it. even if you don’t like it…you will learn to LOVE it.

you will become your child’s #1 fan.

literally. every milestone. every sports game. support and be proud of every one of their accomplishments.

you will change.

both mentally and physically. permanently.  your priorities change and you learn to become a whole lot less selfish. but in the end, you wont want to change a thing because it’s all worth it.

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sneaking food becomes a thing.

it’s totally okay to sneak into another room and enjoy your snack, to yourself. there is absolutely no shame in that.

you can handle more than you think.

you learn to multitask and you become REAL good at it. when you think you’ve hit your limit and can’t possibly take on any more, more things will get thrown at your plate. but don’t worry…you can handle more than you think.

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